"As we face our abandonment issues, we will be attracted by strengths and become more tolerant of weaknesses." BRB p. 591
Being left without a means of finding our way back is the essence of our abandonment. As a child in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family, we were required to leave our True Selves behind. Our false selves took the lead so that we could try to avoid the inevitable pain and disappointment. This gave us a long-lasting impression that anyone we cared about would leave us too.
Drawn to people who also want to recreate the abandonment drama, our lives seem to be an endless loop of attraction, distraction, and abandonment.
We face our abandonment with the tools of recovery. The challenging 12 Step work we do brings with it an ability to find our way back. Able to realize our powerlessness, our thorough inventory reveals the source of our disconnection from our True Selves.
In our meetings, we learn to nurture our Inner Child by understanding the role of our inner loving parent. We make better choices and see that the strengths and weaknesses folks have are but an expression of their humanness. We can decide to whom we will be attracted.
On this day I will use the tools of recovery, meetings, telephone calls, and fellow travelers to face my True Self abandonment, and find a way back to wholeness with consistent use of the Steps and Traditions.
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