"We recognize a spectrum that transcends language and trauma. We recognize the light in ourselves and others." BRB p. 438
In our dysfunctional families, many of us held our heads down because we consistently heard language that was meant to shame us. We were told things like, "I'll give you something to cry about," "Who do you think you are - something special?" "If you can't do it right, don't do it at all!" "What are you - stupid?" and "Can't you do any better than that?" These negatives became so ingrained in us that we still hear them inside our heads from our critical inner parent.
In ACA, we learn to hold our heads high as we hear different, affirming messages, like "One Day at a Time," "First Things First," "Easy Does It," and "Keep It Simple." They remind us to be gentle with ourselves.
As we recover from the hurtful language of our childhoods, we start by acknowledging the harm it has done. We affirm that we are not defined by these shaming words as we tell ourselves that crying is okay, that we are special human beings, that we don't have to be perfect, and that we all make mistakes - it's what makes us human. These positive assurances help us finally explore who we were meant to be. And as we heal, we are able to provide similar assurances to others.
On this day I will make a conscious effort to think only positive things about myself and my abilities as I learn to undo the damage of the past.
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