"Even though we were whipped emotionally, we held out hope that a new relationship, a new job, or a move would be the cure, but it never was." BRB p. 334
We gave our all to other people. We were trained to do that. Who we were as people, our hopes and dreams, were not important.
We found ourselves in old situations again and again, with different faces. We moved to a new city to get out of messes, we changed jobs and we ended relationships. But our parents continued to appear in different forms, or there was the destructive relationship we had with our uncle or sister, but with a different face.
Some ACA meetings use this version of the Serenity Prayer.
Higher Power, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change the courage to change the one I can and the wisdom to know that one is me.
It hurts when we start to come out of denial, but it doesn't hurt forever. We hold on to our program and to our Higher Power. We learn to nurture those parts of us that need attention in order to grow. We bring light where there is no light by shining the love in the universe onto those wounded parts that still hide inside us. They want to come out to tell their stories and heal.
On this day, with my Higher Power's help, I will focus on myself to find the solution that will keep me from repeating my past patterns.
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