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The ACA “Laundry List” Describes Compliant Adult Children, Not Exiles Or Rebels

by Kathleen S. | Oct 15, 2022 | ComLine, Voices of Recovery

Only Trait 4 specifies substance abuse, as a way to cope. Addict/Alcoholic adult children do share the feelings—fears—in the traits, but they acted out as targets of abuse. I believe lumping defiant behaviors into the “Other Laundry List” isn’t satisfactory. All...

Recovery In Turbulent Times

by Christine B | Aug 1, 2022 | ComLine, Voices of Recovery

We May Encounter Unexpected TurbulenceFasten your SeatbeltPlace your Mask over Nose and MouthBreathe Normally“Keep your seatbelts fastened,” the pilot intoned, “in case we encounter unexpected turbulence.” I complied because, why not? It was no big deal, keeping the...

The Better Triangle

by Mary H. | Jun 1, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine

I’m good. . . I’m blameless. . . I know I’m right. Where have I seen those phrases? They are from the Drama Triangle in the Traits Workbook. I saw myself. I would jump from Rescuer, trying to help someone because I did not know the difference between love and pity; to...

Isolation

by Anonymous | Mar 15, 2022 | ComLine, Voices of Recovery

This is a very difficult subject for me. Isolation is where I go when something in the world overwhelms me. It’s where I go when I’m hurt. It’s where my parents put me. It’s all I know when there is pain.The most horrible thing about isolation is that there is no...

Currency Of Codependence

by Denise R. | Feb 15, 2022 | ComLine, Newcomer Resources

Growing up, I got the message loud and clear in cruel words and in abusive actions that I was unlovable, a bother, and that there was something inherently wrong with me. When I wasn’t at the end of my mother’s wrath and frustration, I was mostly ignored and forgotten....