by Geneviève R. | Jan 1, 2023 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine
Dans plusieurs livres traitant d’emprise, j’ai lu cette histoire: « Une mère offre deux cravates à son fils : une bleue et une rouge. Mais… S’il met la bleue, c’est qu’il n’aime pas la rouge. S’il met la rouge, c’est qu’il n’aime pas la bleue. S’il n’en met...
by Christine B | Oct 15, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine
As newcomers, we often feel the need to set boundaries with family or friends who don’t understand our program, who may give unwanted advice, or simply trigger our laundry list traits. I had a friend who criticized the way I taught my children manners (or lack...
by Mary H. | Jun 1, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine
I’m good. . . I’m blameless. . . I know I’m right. Where have I seen those phrases? They are from the Drama Triangle in the Traits Workbook. I saw myself. I would jump from Rescuer, trying to help someone because I did not know the difference between love and pity; to...
by Susanne R. | May 15, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine
When I first began intentionally being mindful of discovering what my limits are, I used the visualization of a Geiger counter, like one that is a pin that one might fasten to a uniform such as an X-ray tech would use to determine what amount of radiation they’ve been...
by Cindy D. | Apr 1, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine
I feel like I’m just learning to find healthy boundaries within myself. Recognizing the inner critical voice was pretty straightforward. It has been loud for a very long time. At first, when I heard it, I would try to demand it be silent or go away. Now I have come to...
by Christine B | Mar 1, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine
The garden, edged with wire,a jaunty scarecrow, a bit of coyoteurine, hair shavings from a buzz cut.Don’t call me, text me.stop with the emojis, no morecute animal videos. I’m at the edge of nowhere,on edge, waiting for silence,flicker of senses, a sense of...
