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SOBRIETY IS THE LIMIT

SOBRIETY IS THE LIMIT

Years ago, I discovered the notion of limits, and the fact that I had none. I learned to set one.A friend attending regularly a 12-Step meeting was in dire straits: years ago, she had left a violent husband, and was by then living on social welfare with her four...
Spiritual Inclusion in ACA Literature

Spiritual Inclusion in ACA Literature

The 2021 ACA Annual Business Conference adopted a motion for the Literature Committee to plan “a revised edition of the Big Red Book to be more inclusive of all experiences of gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity, religion/spirituality, and a broader range of...
Plus Jamais D’Auto-Trahison

Plus Jamais D’Auto-Trahison

Dans plusieurs livres traitant d’emprise, j’ai lu cette histoire: « Une mère offre deux cravates à son fils : une bleue et une rouge. Mais… S’il met la bleue, c’est qu’il n’aime pas la rouge. S’il met la rouge, c’est qu’il n’aime pas la bleue. S’il n’en met...
Boundaries

Boundaries

As newcomers, we often feel the need to set boundaries with family or friends who don’t understand our program, who may give unwanted advice, or simply trigger our laundry list traits. I had a friend who criticized the way I taught my children manners (or lack...
The Better Triangle

The Better Triangle

I’m good. . . I’m blameless. . . I know I’m right. Where have I seen those phrases? They are from the Drama Triangle in the Traits Workbook. I saw myself. I would jump from Rescuer, trying to help someone because I did not know the difference between love and pity; to...
Finding My Limits – The Geiger Counter

Finding My Limits – The Geiger Counter

When I first began intentionally being mindful of discovering what my limits are, I used the visualization of a Geiger counter, like one that is a pin that one might fasten to a uniform such as an X-ray tech would use to determine what amount of radiation they’ve been...
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