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But He Doesn’t…

by Melanie B. | Jan 1, 2023 | ACA And The Arts, ComLine

He's a good man, you say But he doesn't honor my feelings.He's a good father, you sayBut he doesn't respect their boundaries.He has a big heart, you sayBut he doesn't when he is judging others.He's a smart guy, you sayBut he doesn't know how to manage money.He's...

Le rétablissement, c’est de faire autrement

by Geneviève R. | Oct 15, 2022 | ACA Beyond Borders, ComLine

J’ai collectionné de nombreuses phrases, qui me servent parfois de boussole. Par exemple : • Si je ne change pas, ma souffrance ne changera pas. • Si tu veux des choses que tu n’as jamais eues, fais des choses que tu n’as jamais faites. • « Plus » de la même chose...

The ACA “Laundry List” Describes Compliant Adult Children, Not Exiles Or Rebels

by Kathleen S. | Oct 15, 2022 | ComLine, Voices of Recovery

Only Trait 4 specifies substance abuse, as a way to cope. Addict/Alcoholic adult children do share the feelings—fears—in the traits, but they acted out as targets of abuse. I believe lumping defiant behaviors into the “Other Laundry List” isn’t satisfactory. All...

Recovery In Turbulent Times

by Christine B | Aug 1, 2022 | ComLine, Voices of Recovery

We May Encounter Unexpected TurbulenceFasten your SeatbeltPlace your Mask over Nose and MouthBreathe Normally“Keep your seatbelts fastened,” the pilot intoned, “in case we encounter unexpected turbulence.” I complied because, why not? It was no big deal, keeping the...

The Better Triangle

by Mary H. | Jun 1, 2022 | ACA Boundaries, ComLine

I’m good. . . I’m blameless. . . I know I’m right. Where have I seen those phrases? They are from the Drama Triangle in the Traits Workbook. I saw myself. I would jump from Rescuer, trying to help someone because I did not know the difference between love and pity; to...