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Inner Critic

Inner Critic

I hear her voice in my head: “God forbid a stranger should find fault with you.” Such an event would of course embarrass the whole family. I wonder how many generations have heard this — I had heard two — then repeated it when they became parents. “God forbid that a...

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Engine-Like

Engine-Like

I know nothing about engines, except the four-stroke combustion cycle: 1) induction (fuel enters), 2) compression, 3) explosion, 4) expansion (exhaust out). At the emotional level, things worked similarly for me: Induction: my father’s and other authority...

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Weathering Storms

Weathering Storms

I have spent most of my life drowning. Every time I came up for air there was a thumb pushing me under. If the thumb was taking a break, there was someone’s opinion, dragging me under. A constant battle of gasping for air. No break in the waves of trauma as far as the...

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