ACA Tools & Growth

Woulda Coulda Shoulda

Woulda Coulda Shoulda

Use your brain, that's why God gave it to you.How many times do I have to repeat myself?Who do you think you are?What did I tell you to do?Why aren't you doing that yet?What's between your ears? Air?You don't ever listen!Here we go again!Do as I say, not as I do.What...

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Engine-Like

Engine-Like

I know nothing about engines, except the four-stroke combustion cycle: 1) induction (fuel enters), 2) compression, 3) explosion, 4) expansion (exhaust out). At the emotional level, things worked similarly for me: Induction: my father’s and other authority...

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Weathering Storms

Weathering Storms

I have spent most of my life drowning. Every time I came up for air there was a thumb pushing me under. If the thumb was taking a break, there was someone’s opinion, dragging me under. A constant battle of gasping for air. No break in the waves of trauma as far as the...

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Self-Doubt No More

Self-Doubt No More

As an Adult Child, I have always been consumed by self-doubt (see daily meditations of June 27, September 08, November 06). Double-binds were the rule in my family, along with lies, secrets, enmeshment, triangulation (= no direct communication, always tell a third...

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