When you made decisions for me under the guise of taking care of me; you were actually controlling me.
When you used the ubiquitous “we” and spoke for both of us because you thought of us as one; you were actually discounting me.
When you decided all the cars and computer passwords would be in your name; you were erasing me.
When you exercised while I needed help with the children; you disregarded me.
When I allowed all those things to happen; you were unstoppable.
When I was able to voice my displeasure; you began to listen.
When I told you about my needs; you paid attention.
When I made requests of you and requested changed behavior; you were willing to change.
You thought I was in agreement with you because I never said anything; I thought you could read my mind.
When I own my own power and I express my needs and wants; we can connect.
When we include each other in decisions; we can both grow.
When the years add up and anniversaries are near; we can celebrate our lives together and raise our glass with cheer.
Rosalie, SoCal