I want to share a recovery tool I love when working the Steps. It’s daily texts between the person or persons working the steps and the others working the steps if it’s in a group, or the support person, sibling traveler, sister traveler, fellow traveler, or sponsor. It’s called “Well done, thank you, help”, or Bra, tack hjälp in Swedish.
In Step One, the people working that Step send a text of something they’re powerless over that day. It can be one thing, three things, or all the things you feel powerless over. It’s great to get to know where I feel powerless in my daily life, and how it changes as I heal. I really get to know myself and start building trust with the people receiving it.
My new sponsee, Eira, has had the insight of adding “and that’s ok” to every statement of powerlessness. It is so full of self-compassion and healing acceptance of what is for now. Growing serenity.
Entering Step Two, we change to sharing both ways, both the person working the Steps and the support person. We share three things we did well, three things we’re grateful for that came to us from others. It can be principles, like courage and self-love, that we notice in our lives that help us do what we want to do in our lives. And we also share three things we need help with. Often what I ask for help with becomes what I thank for the next day, and that makes life quite magical, to notice the effects of asking for help and how we can start to open ourselves to receiving what we need. It is inspiring to receive someone else’s “Well done, thank you, help”, and learn what else I can do well for myself, what I can thank for that I have received and what I can ask for help with that I feel powerless over.
Please feel free to share and spread this transformative and lovely tool of recovery!
Alexandra & Eira, Sister Travelers